This game is a favorite that can be used with almost any group size and a rubber ball! BTW, get yourself a nice rubber kick ball! They cost what? A dollar? And you’re still using that beat up half flat kickball that has been in your church’s closet since the first Bush administration! C’mon man, loosen the purse strings a little!
The game mechanic is simple. The group forms a circle. In the center of the circle is the “body guard” and the “target”. [NOTE: at my last church I made the mistake of referring to the “target” as the “president” and from then on my Jr. High Boys referred to the game as “J.F.K”! Wrong Costner movie! If you want to keep the conversation at you recreation time from teetering between the distasteful and the treasonous, it’s best to refer to the person in the middle as the “target”.] Everyone else in the circle are the assassins. The object is pretty simple. The assassins are trying to hit the target with the ball. The assassins in the circle pass the ball to each other until someone has a clear shot. The body guard meanwhile is protecting the target by deflecting the ball with his body. If they pick up or catch the ball they can throw it to someone else in the circle. My group considers it bad form to hurl the ball way outside the circle but your group will have to determine its own circle game etiquette. Here’s the tricky part: once the target is hit, everyone moves up a notch. The target returns to the circle, the body guard becomes the target, and the person who hit the target becomes the new body guard. You can stop the game to engage in a peaceful transition of power but my group prefers the messiness of a South American coup. For us, as soon as the target is hit, the body guard becomes the new target so the one that lands the blow has to jump into the circle and protect their fragile new arrangement!
If you have a lot of power throwers who like to aim for the kidneys in your group, you may consider a two handed rule where the ball must be thrown with both hands. I find it prevents the chaos of everyone breaking the circle to run for a stray ball to say that if the ball leaves the circle to your left, you have a right to it. Assassins also should hold the shape and not enter the circle. If ball hogging is a problem, give each player ten seconds to shoot or pass.
Whitney Huston Tribute Edition. We all honor the passing of musical legends in our own way. Might I suggest this spin on the classic? Show your group the original Bodyguard trailer. Then play by the rules above except the bodyguard will be referred to as Kevin and the target will be referred to as Whitney. Also in the background play, “I Will Always Love You”. In a continuous loop. This will give your game a certain sensitivity and raw emotional power it was lacking before.
However you choose to play this game, I’m sure it will be a crowd pleaser. If only for that special moment when the big kid everyone refers to as Sasquatch becomes the target and the short sixth grade boy nicknamed “oompa loompa” becomes his new bodyguard. Hilarity is guaranteed to ensue!
Does YOUR group have a favorite circle game?
To say that those of us in ministry are insecure would be an understatement on par with saying Lady GaGa is “different”. We want people to know how hard are work is and how busy we are. We want people to know that we have a “real job” that is every bit as frustrating as someone else’s job. And I, you, and the rest of y’all are guilty of communicating this message by complaining incessantly about our line of work.
“Ministry is SO HARD!”, We tell anybody that will listen, “You work weekdays and weekends, no one ever thanks you, you’re under paid, the congregants constantly complain, it’s so LONELY!” while many of these things may or may not be true, our main objective in sharing them is to communicate to the outside world that we are selfless martyrs over-burdened with caring for their sorry asses. Don’t mean to use that kind of language in a ministry blog but I am trying to keep it real about what our griping says to those around us!
The truth is that ministry IS hard but it isn’t harder than working at Mc Donalds and the pay is better if you work full time. Where we miss the mark is in wanting people to know that ministry is just like any other job. It’s not. Ministry is a calling. Ministry is a privilege and a way of life. Those of us in youth ministry have the coolest jobs in the world. We get to eat junk food all the time, go on free ski weekends, play capture the flag, and spend time with amazing people! Sure there’s all that boring and hard stuff that goes on behind the scenes but even that isn’t trivial. What YOU do matters! So WHAT if you have to make the sweet tea for Wednesday Night! Can you picture Jesus stripped down to servants clothing rolling his eyes as he says: “I just washed your skank-nasty feet. Don’t thank me or anything. Just doing my job that no one pays me for!”?
When you complain, you choke the seed of ministry in those around you. You make it harder, not easier, to recruit volunteers and you model to your students that caring for them is an obligation. You need a couple of accountability partners to share your challenges and frustrations with but to the rest of the world you should minister with the spiritual fruit of joy.
The last time I was hired, I was one of about 10 candidates who were qualified and enthusiastic about young people. All across America, small churches are having to let go of their youth pastors in the face of harsh economic realities. All of this is to say: if you’re in youth ministry and you don’t deep down believe you have he coolest most important job in the world, if you don’t think the joy of serving the group of hilarious, weird, and talented students you’ve been entrusted with is worth the indignity of a condescending lecture or two, if you don’t truly feel that the hard work and long hours are a meager offering in comparison with the richness of the blessing of watching a young person grow from being lost to becoming a committed follower of Christ, then make room for someone that does. I hear Mc Donald’s is hiring.
Do the joys far outweigh the challenges in YOUR ministry? Have you, like me, ever been guilty of complaining too much?
One of my students has an older sister named “Ashley” (this of course is a made up name to protect her anonymity from the two people that currently read this blog). Ashley’s brother, “Kyle”, has been attending our programs pretty regularly. Ashley came once. The night was Good Friday. If you could only come one night to see what our Church and our Youth Group is all about, this night would be it. We began with a church-wide Good Friday worship service that was deep, spiritual, and passionate. Afterwards, the teenagers retired to the youth house where we watched a movie (The Chronic- The Chronic- The Chronicles Narnia!) while some of the parents hid Easter eggs for our late night Easter egg hunt! No one actually watched the movie but they laughed, played games, ate pizza, and had a great time! I like to think they absorbed C.S. Lewis’ classic allegory about the hope of resurrection by osmosis.Then we did our late night Easter egg hunt. It was a blast! We played in the dark with flashlights and had capture the flag type rules where if someone from the other team tagged you, you had to give them one of your eggs. We gave out prizes for the team and the individual that got the most eggs and, of course had some cash eggs. The candy was equally distributed into goody bags that went home with each student. We ended with a short devotional on Jesus being the greatest treasure of all.
It. Was. Awesome.
So when I talked to Ashley in the parking lot a couple of months later and asked why she hadn’t been back, I was stunned by her answer. She said, “When I came, no one talked to me.” In that moment, I was shocked, my heart broke into a million pieces, and somewhere between here and Never land, a faerie died. “No one talked to me.” Recently I was at Buffalo Wild Wings and they were showing a mixed martial arts match on a plasma television roughly the size of a billboard. One of the combatants kicked the other combatant in the area where the fruit meets the looms and he doubled over in pain. Apparently this is illegal because the whole time while they were officiating, they kept replaying this shot over and over from each cringe inducing angle, back in forth between slow motion and regular speed. This is about what Ashley’s comment felt like to me.
Now I have plenty of excuses. I had only been the youth pastor at Central a week when we had our egg hunt so I was new myself. I haven’t yet put together a Student Leadership Team who would specialize in making newcomers feel welcome (that’s this fall!). It was a crazy action-packed event so I was pretty busy attending to details. Some of these excuses are more valid than others but they all miss the big point.
Jesus tells us over and over again that the Kingdom is about small things. It’s like a pearl, a mustard seed, a lost coin, a bit of yeast. I’ve been strutting around about my Good Friday program because it was big, fun, and splashy. But for at least one person, the whole experience hinged on one tiny thing: Is someone going to say, “hi” to me? So often in youth ministry, we forget that what truly makes a difference in students lives are those small acts of kindness and acknowledgment. Some of the students in our care are ignored EVERYWHERE THEY GO! They are ignored at school, at home, and out in their community. They come to Church hoping and hungry for something different. When we fail at that task, our ministry is, let’s face it, a stumbling block between them and a life-changing relationship with Christ. When we fail at serving the smallest needs of our students, we are failing at loving Christ. Remember what He told Peter after asking him “Do you love me” for the third time? Peter may well have answered: “Lord you know I love you. I’m going to do all these amazing things! I’m going to give these great messages! I’m going to put together a top-notch church for you!” But Jesus simply replies, “then feed my lambs.” The way leaders show their love for Christ is by shepherding those that have been trusted to them. A small word can be that mustard seed of faith that begins to move those mountainous obstacles between a student and Christ. Small things matter. In fact, the whole kingdom rests on small things.
I smiled and encouraged Ashley to gives us another try. I told her I’d changed deodorants. Maybe she will. I hope so. But if not, I am going to at least resolve that no one else will be able to tell me that they didn’t come back because they weren’t welcomed. Because if they do then there will be a very heavy millstone with my name on it.
What small things are important to YOUR ministry? How do YOU make sure new people are welcomed?